my first duty is to my family. that means keeping them safe, and also means keeping myself safe and able to support them. I actually run through these scenarios every time I have my kids at the mall, or park, or any public place. I always look for exits and cover. every time. I look around constantly. I make mental notes of the guys who look fit and groomed and could be military. I plan to stay as low key as possible until we get out. I'm not a sheepdog. I'm ok with that. if an obstacle gets between us and the door ill deal with it as best I can, regardless of what it it.