This doesn't sound about right to me. You seem to be oblivious to why there is friction surrounding you. It has nothing to do with Tom. Tom has a big personality and his BS meter picks up on trace amounts. As you can see Tom can certainly handle his own.
The main issue is with you not wanting to listen when people try to correct you for using the incorrect facts and terms.
Again, I don't speak for everyone, but before you accuse people for throwing feces on you at Tom's behest, let me tell you where I am coming from.... You jumped down a Moderator's throat (Matt) for referencing anal lube in your intro thread....it was a joke....something that happens a helluva lot around here. Anyway, you managed to get on his bad side which I have only seen a handful of people do on here. A lot of people who have been around a while and know how Matt moderates the board saw you do that and soured on you pretty quick. I, for one, did.
Then the whole Canada/America thing came up. I don't know about your military experience, but good nature ball busting is expected (if not required) when foreign units get together.... same with international police organizations...it is called bonding and how alpha males (as you call them) relate to one another. You really resisted that from the start here.
There are some people who were run off from this board for being posers, liars, belligerently mentally ill, and just general a-holes. I am sure they congregate and commiserate about this forum.