Good info brother. Just got back from the range with wife and granddaughter 15. Took both Xdm's 4.5 in 9mm and .45 ACP both did better with 9mm Jess did great for fist time with the .45 but also enjoyed the reduced recoil of the 9mm. Go with what you can control is always best.
I am a .45 fan. 13+1 Xdm