I'd be taking your same approach brother if I could. Unfortunately, it's not like I can just tell my company to go pound it, and move on to the next control company. Here in the DC area, all control companies work in federal facilities at some point. Plus, a lot of property management companies are caving too easily and getting in lockstep with the commies, er ahh....democrats. So any company that I would try to move to, I would just have the same problem there.
But I'm not going quietly. My deadline was this Thursday at noon. So....I'm getting their stupid useless poke at noon on Thursday. And, moving forward, I'll be "that guy" at the security desk at every facility that I walk in to, reminding all of these fukers about the HIPAA laws, and asking how do they feel demanding to see someones papers for access.