@BeeKay you seem to be far more knowledgeable about your state and the laws than many people who come here asking for advice. Unfortunately, that is not the case in many situations. Those on the forum that give advice cannot assume that of everyone.
As everyone else has said, none of this is personal. You have reacted much better than a lot of people who come in and demand information without giving details. Many of them think we are keeping information that they deserve when they demand it. I don't see that you have done that. Those threads don't usually end well except to those that enjoy watching car wrecks.